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Women & Young People
Feeling stuck?.. At crisis point?.. Ready for change?
Who gets it and why?
The people who are most susceptible to eating disorders are young women. Typically, they are very caring and selfless; acutely sensitive to others' needs. These people strive to be perfect and to protect those close to them, which in an imperfect world is doomed to failure. A trigger is taking responsibility for that failure and self-loathing for falling short of perfection. The internal identity is formed by others' perceptions leading to an under-developed sense of self.
What is it?
Anorexia and bulimia are driven by a separate negative and undermining mindset. It feeds on negativity, distorts perceptions and is destructive, hypercritical and self-negating, telling the self that they are a bad, unworthy person. It is like civil war with 2 minds warring inside. Their internal dialogue creates chaos and makes decisions difficult. Whilst under the control of the negative part, self is terrorised and paralysed, and prevented from reaching out for help. The negative part denies all forms of pleasure and anything positive that 'feeds' the self, including food. There is guilt connected to anything to do with food and the need to 'pay' for eating by punishing the self. Lack of nutrition leads to increased depressed feelings and loss of more control to the negative part.
How I work with Anorexia or Bulimia
Full recovery is possible! Get all the help and support you can. Some clients need more than the usual 6-8 sessions. To keep costs down, I sometimes have monthly sessions after the first few to support you to stay 'on track'.
Useful web links:
William Gladden Foundation - www.williamgladdenfoundation.org
Eating Disorders Association - www.edauk.com 0289-023-5959
Book by Matthew Campling: Eating Disorder Self-Cure - the Matthew Method. Available via Amazon.com
National Centre for Eating Disorders - www.eating-disorders.org.uk
If you are unhappy about your body, take control
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